"what i've said, that will i bring about & what i've planned, that will i do." isaiah 46:11
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Friday, March 26, 2010

* why ADHDers have difficulties answering questions

by Frank Barnhill, M.D.
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Since many of us don’t really understand the emotions of an ADHD child, we often try to make them explain why they do something or say a particular word or phrase. I know most parents say when their teens respond to questions with the word “duh!”, it really gets under their skin. They think their child's just avoiding answering the question or is automatically guilty of something. It’s important to remember in communicating with an ADHDer, his or her executive thought & reasoning processes are sometimes not capable of effective verbal or social communication. Often, the ADHDer believes you should know what he's thinking & shouldn’t have to ask. If your ADHDer seems lost for words, uses inappropriate words such as 'I hate you' when under pressure, or expresses physical anger, it’s often a sign of communication processing block in the brain. For some reason at that moment his or her brain just isn’t correctly processing what goes in & can’t formulate a response without getting frustrated & angry. You should defuse the situation & allow them to calm down or cool off for a while before asking for answers again. Sometimes the response 'I don’t know' is not a manipulation. Later, you may find rephrasing your question in simpler, non-threatening terms allows your ADHDer to answer without all the fuss & emotional stress. After all, most of us do tend to have confused thoughts when under a lot of pressure to perform immediately.
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Thursday, March 25, 2010

* real mothers

Real mothers don't eat quiche
they don't have time to make it.
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Real mothers know their kitchen utensils
are probably in the sandbox.
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Real mothers often have sticky floors
filthy ovens & happy kids.
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Real mothers know that dried play dough
doesn't come out of carpets.
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Real mothers don't even want to know
what the vacuum just sucked up
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Real mothers sometimes ask "Why me?"
& get their answer when a little voice says, "Because I love you best."
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Real mothers know that a child's growth isn't measured by height, years or grades
it's marked by the progression from 'mommy' to 'mom' to 'mother'
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The Images of a mother
4 years old
My mommy can do anything!
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8 years old
My mom knows a lot...a whole lot!
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12 years old
My mom doesn’t know everything!
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14 years old
My mom?...she wouldn’t have a clue
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16 years old
Mom? She's sooooooo five minutes ago.
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18 years old
That old woman? She's waaaaay out of date!
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25 years old
Well, she might know a little bit about it!
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35 years old
Before we decide, let's get mom's opinion.
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45 years old
Wonder what mom would've thought about it?
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65 years old
Wish I could talk it over with mom.
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The beauty of a woman's not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that's the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman's not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman's reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!
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Please send this to five moms today. If you don't, nothing bad will happen, but if you do, something good will. You'll boost a mother's spirits, that's for sure!
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Saturday, March 20, 2010

* new sessions & more coming YEAH!

did 2 photo sessions today & had a great time with hayleigh & david - hayleigh was giving ideas she had & david was a great sport & went along with them all - i've got 3-4 more sessions coming up in the next couple weeks, so that's exciting & will be giving me lots more experience - anyone wanting to book a session, please call!! 317.674.8512